Mechtild's

You're right. They are taught to despise themselves for what they feel. The only emotions that are acceptable to act out are rage and hate. When Jack lays into his father in law, his wife smirks approval. When Ennis pounds on those jerks at the fireworks, nobody is a bit bothered. But if either of them shed a tear, they'd have been scorned. I did love the scene of their second night together, and I think I cried most about Jack's mother and the scene with Ennis and his daughter, and maybe that was the reason, because they were moments of tenderness. It just made me so glad for him that he had at least one person he could love, who loved him back.